so, these are two posts that i’d written within the past few weeks that i’d stuck in the *private* folder. sometimes, i’ll write something, and then i’ll feel the need to sit on it for a while. it may not have quite the tone i’d like, or i may feel that i’ve overstepped the limits just a bit. or, in the case of these, i may be unsure of how, exactly, i feel. because i take a lot of stuff to heart, and so many things frustrate and concern and confuse me.
sometimes, i’ll discuss my posts with family or friends before i actually publish them. that was the case with these two, and in both instances, it was brought to my attention that my ranty arguments were based on very deep issues. personal insecurities, past complications, or an honest belief that people should be held to higher standards than can really be expected these days. whatever the reason, they’ve sat in that folder and on my mind for a while now, and i’m just going to throw them out there in an exercise of (more than likely futile) catharsis. here you go:
Wednesday, 13 October 2010
we’re all, just like…naked, and stuff…such as…maps?
ladies. ugh. i can’t even begin to type fast enough to vent this one.
by now, it’s no secret that the us women’s water polo team (among other celebrated athletes, both male and female) will be appearing in the 2010 espn magazine body issue. and, regardless of past traumas that have left me with essentially no respect for nudey-posers, even i can admit that it’s fairly un-shocking. and the photos are relatively tame (although i don’t find them artistically *tasteful*, which is to say that i wouldn’t go check them out in an art exhibit, even if they are in black and white).
yep. naked ladies. there’s nothing new under the sun.
it’s not like i really have that much room to talk, either, i suppose. i wear a bikini to the beach, and that doesn’t put a whole heap of fabric between my skin and the imagination. and i’ve been on-stage in my underwear on multiple occasions–although (rocky horror aside; i wore more than just underwear. i had a boots. and a cape.) the times i’ve appeared almost au naturale have served a purpose, have punctuated a strong female message. and i had to strongly defend those times. which i did. with strength and elegance. because i was wise enough to realize that doing something mildly provocative might raise eyebrows and questions.
in a nutshell: if you have a strong personal reason that is validated by a contribution that betters society, i won’t scoff at your choices. if, however, you go on major news stations and answer questions with as little aplomb as miss teen south carolina 2007, i am going to freaking rail you.
so, us women’s water polo team, this one is just for you.
this morning, i was minding my own business, getting stuff done–you know, shower, breakfast, laundry, classwork–when i passed through the living room on my way to get a cup of coffee. and i paused, because a picture (different from the one above. i couldn’t find the one i actually saw in any size smaller than "ceiling of teenage boy’s bedroom", and have, therefore, left it out of this post) flashed across the t.v. screen, and the voice of some random female news anchor announced that the us women’s water polo team would be up next to talk about this bold decision.
well, i thought, i’m not super-interested, but i suppose i could hear what they have to say. i mean, they represent the u.s., right? they probably have a really cool message about encouraging little girls to be comfortable with themselves, and to be strong. …right??
**pause**
i should say, now, before i get carried away, that this is a difficult topic for me. i don’t have anything solid to stand on when it comes to a lifetime of healthy eating habits. i was a pudgy kid, because i lived hand to mouth. then, i became a young adult skeleton on revolt, so i can’t preach against ana, mia, or any of the rest of the ednos. what i can say is this: right now, americans are ridiculously unhealthy, but there’s this annoying push to "love who you are, no matter what!" really? i’m a big fan of promoting self-love and self-respect, but i feel that those efforts should be put toward taking care of yourself. eating a doughnut once in a while because you like to, but eating healthfully most of the time and getting regular exercise is reasonable. eating an entire box of krispy kremes, washing it down with a 38 ounce soda, and then falling slowly into a food-coma, while shouting with carefree abandon, "i ate the whole box without regret because i love my curves!" is just plain stupid. i’m sure i’ll gripe about that again soon, so i won’t get all the way into it here and now, but when at least 68% of your nation is classified as overweight and/or obese, it’s time to make a change.
all that to say this:
- feel good enough about yourself to take of yourself? then, by all means, flaunt those curves!
- don’t take care of yourself, but still self-righteously proclaim your attributes? then shut up–you’re annoying me.
i grabbed my mug, trudged (i’m still a tad sicky, mind you) back to the living room to catch the interview, and promptly wished that i’d just kept moving. the news anchor interviewing the team was a woman, and was very obviously expecting the same thing i was: to get some form of intelligent commentary regarding empowerment. or the beauty of the female form. or the newly discovered scientific fact that naked polo players can correctly predict rainfall within 1/72 of an inch 6 years in advance. i don’t know. something. instead, what we got was this:
anchor: "so, how did you come to the decision, as a team, to pose for this shoot?"
team member: "well, they asked us if we wanted to do it. and we were like, ‘um…sure.’ (giggling)."
anchor: "…did you feel that it brought you together ever more as a team?"
team member: "well, um, yeah. i mean, we’re all, like…naked, and stuff. but, i mean, we wear bathing suits and that’s it, you know, when we’re together, anyway, so, it wasn’t, like, that much…um…different. you know?"
anchor: "haha…right…but did it empower you? as women?"
team member, "well yeah! because, like, it was really cool for us to show that we have good bodies. i mean, like, it was nice to be like, ‘look! polo women have the best bodies around!’ you know?"
team member: "i think so, yeah. right? because, like…it’s really good for girls to see that, like…you don’t have to be all, like, super-skinny and stuff. you can be, like, all muscular instead. you know?"
anchor: "…well…thanks for joining us ladies."
so, according to the women of the us polo team, as long as you’re all bone or all muscle, you can feel good about yourself.
well, crap. now i have to completely redefine all my personal ideas and concepts. i mean, how on earth can i live with myself? i’m neither all bone nor all muscle. despite the fact that i eat a (mostly) healthy vegan diet (oreos are vegan and delicious. i eat them. just not by the sleeve.) and workout for at least an hour a day, i still undeniably, indisputably, possess hips.
guess i have to take up water polo and pose nude to be legitimate. i’ll be back to post something when i qualify as a real woman again, but don’t wait around. this could take a while…
Wednesday, 20 October 2010
but somehow, i just can’t help it. i’ve tried to be supportive. i’ve tried to be positive. i’ve given it a chance. and i just want to scream. i’d assumed that glee had dropped the last straw on me when i heard about the rocky horror episode. i mean…there’s glee. and then there’s the rocky horror show (note: i didn’t say "picture", because the original wasn’t a freaking motion picture, it was a legit musical. as much as i love the movie and hero crush on tim curry every time i watch it, i can be honest.) and don’t even get me started on who or what they’re doing with the role of magenta (i’ve played the role, and i still stand firm in the opinion that the only person who should play her, ever, is patricia quinn. sorry, daphne rubin vega–go back to singing about going out tonight, darling.)
all of that is neither here nor there. my problem at the moment has to do with the glee gq photo shoot. or, moreover, interview content about how awesome it is to be role-modeling-it-up for the kids these days. thanks, lea michelle, i’ve always hoped that my nieces would want to be just like this:
dear lea micheele: jessica simpson called.
she wants her creepy *mouth-hanging-open-at-an-awkward-angle-in-every-photo-of-her* face back.
now, i don’t care what the 20-something-year-old high school kids from glee do. they can fornicate in a public park at a kiddie cancer walk-a-thon, and i won’t whine–as long as they stand behind their actions. but when you walk into a photo shoot saying, "i’m a role model! kids look up to me!" please, for the love of all things logical, don’t be shocked that the media wolves turn around and go, "but you’re not wearing any pants…" you’re either out to get attention for yourself or you’re out to get attention for others.
if i walked out into the street wearing a bright yellow, neon lighted sandwich board and screamed, "look at me! look at me!" and someone walked up to me and said, "okay, i’m looking at you. now what?" i wouldn’t smile humbly, genuflect, and say meekly, "it’s for the children."
there seems to be a pretty big trend in the constant blathering of young women in the public eye about "loving the fact that they’re role models for little girls." this goes back to my recent ravings about the terrible public presence of the us womens water polo team after they posed nude for espn magazine. i honestly don’t think that the people who are being fed the line, "i’m a role model!" know what they’re in for.
if your goal is to encourage little girls to grow up to be comfortable enough with themselves to have a desire to pose in a potentially questionable manner for random mens magazine #7, then be honest about that.
if your goal is to encourage little girls to grow up with real dreams that don’t potentially demean them or send them into a spiral of unfortunately body-conscious years and bizarrely disordered behaviors, maybe you should try a different approach.
and, guys? seriously. stop encouraging this scheisse.
one last thought. as much as i’m annoyed by the gq cover and the moral confusion of the interview content, i still feel like it’s more artistically tasteful than this steaming pile of sheet music:
jane lynch is the only good thing happening here.
and what does the dog have to do with any of this?
**note**
since i wrote this post, dianna agron has actually apologized for the gq shoot, saying that, while it’s the job of parents to make certain such magazines don’t fall into the hands of children, it’s her job as a role model not to promote images that are inconsistent with her own beliefs and values. she said that she was uncomfortable with the shoot even while she was doing it and should have walked away. whether she has a super pr rep or she reached that conclusion on her own, i can respect her for coming out about it.